Wednesday, June 2, 2010

i shouldn't judge, but...

I currently live with two other roommates T and N, both of whom are frantically preparing their personal statements to send in with their med school applications.  T unfortunately does not write very well...  Tonight, she asked another friend and myself to read her draft and offer opinions.  I'm no expert, but even I couldn't help thinking it needed lots of work...  Anyway, during the session, she referred to two sample personal statements from two other people, both of which were undeniably more polished than her own.   I realized that one of the essays belonged to N, so I asked if they were helping each other on their statements.  I was a little surprised because they hadn't really been talking to each other much about med school at all.

No wonder.  Our other friend let slip (probably to T's dismay) that N did not actually know T had a copy of her essay.  T had basically stolen it off her laptop one day while no one was at home.  She justified it by saying that she was freaking out at the time because she hadn't started writing anything and needed to read someone else's stuff to "get inspiration".

As a friend, I suppose, for the most part I'm expected to be supportive and all that.  I didn't say anything about it then and there, but I couldn't help wondering if she's ever rifled through MY things, or violated MY privacy in any way.  If she could do it to one roommate, she could also do to the other, right?  I was rather shocked, although I do remember one time last year when she admitted she's stolen from multiple clothing stores on multiple occasions.....  The other girl wasn't as shaken by what T did, but I might be judgmental because I've personally been on the other end, where I have had personal files deliberately taken, by someone I really trusted, for malicious purposes.  So it's become a sensitive issue for me.  Not to mention I don't approve of what she did... it's just not cool, it's like cheating kinda.  :( 

Oh well, not my place to judge...  learned something more about T tonight that still shocks me even after the 3 years that we've grown close.  I will simply keep it in mind and be very careful of my belongings....  even this post, I must remember not to keep my blog open.....haha, half kidding.....


  1. I'm with you! When you see a friend has no problem invading someone else's privacy, you have to think she would do the same to you. Getting inspiration is fine, but not without asking first.

    No more doubles for me--and no recent mistaken identities. Last year when I was having lunch with my siblings, a fellow stopped by our table and made small talk for a few minutes. A little later his wife came over to apologize and let me know he had mistaken me for a friend of theirs. Later, one of my sisters asked why I was talking with "that blond". I explained she was apologizing for her husband. The sister didn't know what I was talking about--she didn't notice me talking to the husband (for 5 minutes), she only noticed me talking to the "blond" (for 30 seconds). =)

  2. should be careful about your belongings,,if i am N and i have known that..i will kill T!! that's plagiarism!!and its not really nice!!even its what T called us "get inspiration"'s still not a valid reason to stole someone's ideas!

    (p.s. check out my latest post if you have time,,.thanks :3)


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