Friday, February 5, 2010

spiny porcupine

Over the last two days, I've been getting contacted by this friend of mine who I haven't seen in a while.  Back in freshman year, he had a crush on me, and it was very obvious... all my other guy friends at the time noticed too, but they didn't have a good opinion of him - they would call him a spiny porcupine because of how he would use too much gel in his hair whenever he saw me (in an attempt to impress me, they would say) and have it all stand up like spines on his head.  Anyway, he never took my hints, and still asked me out, in front of those guy friends who was already teasing him (not very smart, huh).  The feeling wasn't mutual, and I was kinda interested in someone else at the time... so I just told him I wanted us to be friends.

(Reminds me of a question I've been wondering about... what do you think is the best way to turn someone down?  What do you say?)

Anyway, I didn't see him much for a while after that... but last Thursday, we happened to bump into each other, so we grabbed lunch together.  Knowing then that I had lunch times free on Thursdays, he called again yesterday hoping we could eat.  I told him I was unavailable, so he asked a few hours later for dinner.  I didn't really want to.. so I just said I had other things to do.  And then, even later that night, he asked if I would be free for lunch today.

I don't want to assume anything about his persistance.  For all I know, he could just be hoping to catch up as friends for the long time we've not seen each other... it throws me off a bit how intense it seems.  I'm not sure if he knows that I am seeing someone right now.  I still want to be friends with him, but I hope he doesn't get the wrong ideas again...

Before I go, I need to rant.  Yesterday wasn't too good of a day...  I had a lot of time-sensitive things to plan/sort out, I was tired but had to attend a workshop, I had to turn down some friends about going to a party (although I really wanted to), various other little things that really upset me, and as a result of everything, I fought with W at the end of the night.  ehh..  it's okay, just have to get my mind off it.

Hope everyone is well!  I plan to visit very soon  (my midterms are all done now after all~ yay)


  1. That kind of persistance doesn't sound like just friendship. Plus, it seems the lunch last week should have been enough to catch up as friends, if that's what he wanted.

    Next time he invites you to do something, you could say you'd like to, but you've got a date w/your boyfriend--or something boyfriend related!

  2. i am also almost done with my midterms..just one more on Monday because our prof. was absent yesterday :/

    anyway..i also experienced having someone liked me so much..he's so obvious and i don't like the feeling that someone is nervous just talking to you and he's also some kinda persistent n asking me out but i was not interested to him..i just said that..i hate naggers so i don't have time for knowing him a bit..i ask him to just be friends with me but he continues to give me the awkward feeling i hate..make sense..? haha..sorry for the long comment x)

    i hope you can let him down without hurting him :)

    (P.S. if you'll reply to this comment..pls. put it in my blog's comment box so that i can update my comments :D)

  3. Well with that sort of persistence I'm sure it's not friendship that he is after. Maybe you should go ahead and see him and you could tell him that you are seeing someone but do want to remain friends with him. It might hurt him a little but at least you won't be leading him on and if ever you guys hang out again, he won't get any ideas. =)

  4. I agree with Rick, it doesn't like friendship to me too. If there's anything that you need to tell him, I think it should be done ASAP. You wouldn't want to lead him on. Goodluck! ☮.♥.✮ ☀..✈


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